"I couldn't do foster care"
As we continue on our journey towards adoption we have hit a few roadblocks. Region 1 adoptions which handles adoptions in the Upstate, has postponed adoptions until January. The agency is extremely short staffed and has been unable to keep up with the work load. They are in the process of hiring and training new caseworkers in preparation for next year. This was obviously disappointing news for us however we are trusting that God has other plans for us and just happy to be on the journey. In the meant time we are looking into foster care through Miracle Hill. The process is very similar so we are able to transfer much of our paperwork and training. Foster Care will add some challenges that we were not expecting like the possible lack of permanency of a child in our home. But this is the door that has opened so we are walking through it. Also the need is so much greater with Foster Care right now. Many of you may have read articles recently about children sleeping at the DSS office due to a lack of foster homes.
What we really were setting out to do was grow our family and permanently add to it, but that seems to currently be on hold which is ok. Although the goal of foster care is temporary care with the hope of reunification, sometimes it does turn into a permanent adoption with the foster family. Each child is unique, as is their family and parental situation. I have shared this with a few people and the common response has been, "I couldn't do foster care." Many of these individuals have expressed the emotional heartbreak they would have parting with a child that was temporarily placed with them. I completely understand that concern. We have experienced this in the past working with children.
I say this, with all understanding and compassion, but it's not about you, or me. It's about the kids, its about others. Although the emotional separation of a child or any person that you invest in is difficult, is that really a reason to say, "its not for me."? Should we therefore not help those in need because of how it might negatively affect us? Should we not give to the homeless because they might, "misspend" our hard earned money? Should we not serve our community because it may take up our time or be hurt by the actions of others? As C. S. Lewis said, "Humility is not thinking less of yourself, but thinking of yourself less."
I know this is a sensitive issue, and not every family is in a position to foster, however, the point is, serving others is hard work. It can be messy, and painful but at the end of the day it is about the two greatest commandments summed up in Jesus' teaching, Love God, Love others.
So be in prayer for us on our journey, we are open to what God has planned for us and are seeking that whatever it may be.
I will leave you with this verse that has been a great comfort to us when things don't really go our way.
Proverbs 16:9 We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.